Pisaries Creator

Maybe because I’m older and dare I say wiser, I get less bent out of shape than I used to about certain things. I’ve learned not to care so much about other things that can make certain people act as if they have lost something very important to them such as oxygen to breath and water to drink. These are the things we should be caring about more the nominations for the upcoming Academy Awards. Sure, there has been much debate over how white and how anti-horror and comedy the Oscars truly are over the years, but after all the awards are given out and the Hollywood elite have returned home to their mansions from the parties, does it really matter? I suppose at one point in my life, it mattered more so than now.

Don’t get me wrong, representation does matter but not everyone will get an award and not everyone should be nominated for an award. Those who are seen as snubbed by the Academy should have reasons to back it. Just because you are a minority, a woman, a lesbian, a transgender, or anything else that isn’t white male doesn’t mean you are a shoe in to get a nomination. Now I might get some hateful responses but probably not because hardly anyone will read this anyway, I’m not going to go so far as to say it’s better to learn life is hard as hell when you’re a child. I’m also a proponent of not coddling children to the extent they adopt the belief that everyone has the ability to be whatever they want to be. Newsflash, you don’t whether it be because you have half the brain cells of the person next to you when you grow up to a young adult or your parents make a third of the money of your best friend or you don’t have the skill set called manipulation to step over those around you so you can win no matter what.

Of course, everyone has the right to state their minds and choose what they agree with deep within their hearts and souls. I’ve done it before where I discuss certain topics I need to get out into the open. These passions that I feel should be remedied in some way or another. I also understand many other people will not feel the same way and my solutions are not in the majority. As much as Whoopi Goldberg has been known to put her foot in her mouth, I agree in that not nominating Greta Gerwig for best director and Margot Robbie as best actress is not a slap in the face to women. It’s a stretch for me that America Ferrera and Ryan Gosling got nominations for their roles in Barbie. I’m not saying this movie wasn’t worth watching. It was entertaining for sure, but Oscar worthy. I don’t think so, not in my view.

But that is how the cookie crumbled and so instead of trying to re-assemble the broken cookie, you throw it in the garbage unless you have immaculate clean floors and continue to live another day. Maybe you fight for women’s rights in another way on another day and while I’m not trying to minimize how strong people felt over the Academy Award announcements. To me it begs the question and I know it’s annoying to ask a question instead of giving an answer. If we are putting all our unfertilized eggs into the Barbie basket in terms of feminism, what does that say about modern feminism? Reacting is so much easier than action. Most of us know this intimately. I believe not calling women names and not seeing them as competition is more beneficial with far reaching consequences than whether one woman is or isn’t nominated by a group of white men. A friend of mine says the real action belongs on a smaller level like county and city instead of state or nationwide. I’m not built to run for any office, but I am thankful for those individuals that keep working day after day.

Before you go screaming about something on social media you don’t like, make sure your head is facing the right way. I’ve seen too many posts saying stuff just for the sake of it. Use your brain matter. Support your ideas. They don’t need to all be facts but there needs to be intelligence behind your arguments. Some are more emotional and that’s fine. Once you get into the territory of threatening others and adhering to complete and utter delusion, that’s a dangerous space. And one more reminder before you go screaming about something on social media, be as true to yourself and as honest with others as you can without compromising anyone in the process. There is such a thing as social media pain, but it’s here to stay. How you deal with it, is up to you.